You Have to Fix Every Promise You Break (A Inconvenience To the World Possibly)

I have a love for good titles- just to let you know.


So, I said I would blog about all the types of personalities. And then I broke that promise. Now I will actually keep the broken promise.

So, the next type of personality is- amiable!

Amialbles tend to be-

Team players- they look to see how everyone can "win"
Warm and kind, though it can seem like they are being cloy
Very, very expressive- they don't have anything against going and talking about feelings and problems
Good listeners- maybe they're repaying people for listening to them...
Very good at nurturing and caring for people because it is usually natural for them
They don't like to make decisions on their own
They don't like not knowing what other people think about something
They like compromises better than arguments (So I'm not normally an amiable in this respect... hmm)


To make up for breaking my promise, I'll tell you about the expressive personality too.

Expressives are usually-

Happiest in the spotlight
Messy- though they can find things in the mess through memory
Very emotional
Quick to make decisions
Eager to see what is going to happen next
Rushed and late because they have a lot of commitments to attend to
Because they love the spotlight, they try to draw attention to themselves
They have lots of bright colored things, because they value 'flash'
Very animated and lively

The final and very last personality type- driver!

Drivers are-

The people who look for chances to be a leader and take them
The ones who really work and want to get things done
They tend to look at the world through a "I did this" lens
They don't like complexity or ambiguity
They don't have patience for details that don't obviously connect to what they're doing
They don't like not having a say in what's happening
They can seem like the alpha male or female in a group
They may appear arrogant and standoffish
They see people as allies and obstacles
They may be overly aggressive in the heat of a project

I want to point out and remind you guys that these are simply traits that psychologists have decided usually fall under the category they are under and nobody that I have ever met is only one of these personalities.

So what do you all think?

I Lied! I Completely Lied!

I was going to blog about another type of personality today- but I found something interesting that I really wanted to share. So I'm going to.

On one of the psychology websites that I am following I found something that really interested me. What do you know about the art of persuasion (and yes, I did mean it when I said 'art')? On the website they talked about some important components to persuade someone of something. Don't you want to know what they are?

Of course you do!

Very Important Thing Number One (Call to Action)-

When you want someone to do something you need to convince them of it with a clear and quick call to action. Tell the person what you need to do and make sure that it is something that they can do then and can do easily.

Very Important Thing Number Two (Good Will)-

Don't make it feel like you're forcing the person to do anything. When you feel forced you want to do whatever you are being forced to do less, not more. Make sure that when you need someone to do what you want, make sure that is comes across as something that you want them to do because you love them (or like them, or are their friend...).

Very Important Thing Number Three (Imagery)-

Especially word imagery. When you talk with them use words that appeal in some way, shape, or form to them. If you have a son who loves sports use the word aim. It draws on you kid because it makes whatever you are asking him to do feel more like a competitive sport.

Very Important Thing Number Four (Phraseology)-

Make how you say whatever you are going to say catchy (but don't make it feel weird). If you choose your words so that your request is in a way that is almost like a very simple riddle (it takes some thinking, but is pretty obvious). The person will have to think for a moment, but will be able to understand what you are saying very quickly.

Very Important Thing Number Five (Timing)-

Let's say that you want to go to your friend's house for the evening. But you need to get you mom to say 'yes'. Are you going to ask her when she's cooking dinner for you and another family with a sick child, and she's helping your brother with homework, and she's talking on the phone with someone who seems to be very important, and she's doing a lot of other things. No- at least not if you had a sudden change of heart and really didn't what to go to your friend's house. When are you going to ask her, then? Well, I would suggest that you ask her when she isn't too busy and is in a good mood. Why? Because she probably won't have too many other things occupying her mind, which means it will be more open to your request, which means you will have the highest likelihood of going to your friend's house.

Very Important Thing Number Six (Placement)-

This isn't as important if you aren't leaving something where they need to see it. But if you are, you need to make sure that you leave whatever you want the person to see, where they can see it. Pretty simple, huh?

So will you all forgive me for not writing about what I said I would? You will!? Thank you so much.

-Emily

Here's How to Break It Down- Part One

Have you ever thought about what how people group themselves in society? Everyone is put into a group, and, believe it or not, psychologists do the same. Now, these groups aren't your average, high school groups. These are categories that you fall into naturally (actually, most people fall into multiple groups). I'm going to give you a little insight into each group.

Group One (In my mind at least)-

The first group that people can fall into is the analytical group.

• Analyticals tends to appear as smart and nerdy
• They need numbers and facts- they don't tend to like subjective information unless it has numbers attached
• Analyticals are usually detail- oriented
• They usually don't show or feel large amounts of emotion, because sometimes they view obvious emotion as a weakness
• They often take longer amounts of time to make important decisions
• Often analyticals are perfectionists
• They want to be admired for their problem-solving skills
• They like structure and organization
• They aren't usually confrontational
• They don't get bored easily
• They get frustrated when other people don't understand what is obvious to them

What do you think? Do you have an analytical view of the world?

The Interesting Story Behind This and Emotions Versus Moods

Here's what's going on. Just like any other 12-year-old I go to school. It just so happens that I go to a very special school that has asked us this year to choose one area of interest and learn about it for a year. My subject: psychology. 


He dictionary says that psychology is: (lit. "study of the soul" or "study of the mind") is an academic and applied discipline which involves the scientific study of human (or animal) mental functions and behaviors. So what, exactly does that mean? Psychology is basically learning about why we think the way we do and why we do what we do. A whole lot simpler now, right?


So the first subject I've been researching has been about the difference between emotions and mood. The easiest way to differentiate them is this: moods are very non-specific (good, bad...), whereas emotions are defined and specific (anger, fear). Emotions are also caused by things. You feel scared because your brother goes and jumps out from behind a wall. Emotions are cause and effect things. Your brother surprises you (cause), you are scared (effect). Moods aren't caused by things. Moods are the after effects of emotions. For instance: you are happy about something (emotion) and AFTER the hormones that make you happy "run out" you are in a good mood.


Moods can also be changed. You can decide if you're going to be in a good mood or if you are going to be in a bad mood. Emotions, on the other hand, can't be controlled or changed. You can't decide if you are happy or if you are sad, you just are. Emotions are basically instincts, in a way. You can't stop yourself from feeling emotions.


Emotions also have a physical affect too. When you are scared, your palms sweat. When you are embarrassed, you blush. Moods don't have any other affects beside just being your mood.

Emotions can be described much better in words than moods can. Try explaining being in a good mood next time you're in one then try and describe being happy. I bet you'll find that it is easier to explain being happy than being in a good mood. Emotions are also easier to show through actions.

Those are most of the reasons that separate moods and emotions, though there are some others that you might be interested in.